Explaning emotional regulation
I thought of a way to explain emotional regulation to
someone who is not familiar with the subject by using an analogy of cars.
Imagine that emotions are little cars moving in our bodies - each car goes from
their own unique point A (in time) to point B (in time). They appear at point A
and once they reach point B (usually after about 3 minutes of being thoroughly
acknowledged), they disappear.
Normally they do this freely and the traffic
flows nicely. But. As we know, sometimes there is peak traffic and there could
be a traffic jam or a car can get get stuck behind an obstacle or the driver
might need directions or might be confused or misguided or even try to avoid
reaching point B. This is where regulation gets into the picture. The traffic
officer regulates the flow of the cars through heavy traffic, or help them to
find their way. He takes a little bit of high quality time with each one,
learning from the driver - maybe finding out where he is going or generally
just acknowledging that this driver needs to use the road from point A to point
B, (by being aware of the cars and accepting their purpose he helps them move
to point B. Remember, the cars themselves are not the meaning we assign to them
or the thoughts that accompany them). It doesn't matter how long it takes to
get all traffic flowing again, usually each car that is attended to gets sorted
pretty quickly, reaching its destination, disappearing and making ample room
for the joys of experiencing the constant flow of new cars. The traffic officer
keeps learning from experience how to keep the traffic flowing better,
especially the old cars and keeps removing obstacles which are likely to help
them along. At times when the traffic officer takes a long break during peak
hours, a bit of a stressful situation can develop...
understandably. On
duty-awareness to acknowledge the cars, keeps traffic flowing, it totally keeps
the stress at bay and is a very health-ful way of being.
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